3 DOM

Sometimes our challenges talk to us, or for us. Till about the fourth grade, I had a lisp. A problem pronouncing t h’s. They became wifs. I was teased, ‘get wif it they said.’ I worked at my pronunciation as a reaction to the teasing. I didn’t, and still don’t like being wrong, and I had a dad, a teaser at home. School was my sanctuary and one reason I keep enrolling in the University of Gary to keep from being teased.

As I add those memories of t h’s and threes’ to the teachings from Gurdjieff, quantum physic, Toastmasters ‘Rule of Threes, and life experience, the lessons of three magnifies. Even today the San Francisco Chronicle Sports page headlined “ 3 is the Magic Number.”

From the point of view of Curing Seriousitis™, free attention is the lack of being attached to being right. Or being identified as your job, your relationship, your age, sex, any and all labeling other than being a verb, your attention is fixed.

Usually, it is our ego’s that fix our attention with the three ego traps:

1-I have to be right.

2-I can’t make a mistake.

3-I already know that.

Those are three ways to stop learning. How we lose our free attention (freedom), and believe that something, other than ourself, is in charge of our happiness.

I encourage us to look at a new, different, and meaningful way to create and maintain freedom ‘wif’ a unique spelling-3Dom.

This is 3D that really makes an impact without the silly glasses, a new and freeing way to look at life.

3 Dom to see we always have choices. That the world is not an either-or situation. Yes and no are not the only answers. It is not this or that, but something else.

3 Dom works magic teaching children. Raising a child with a harangue of “No’s” creates imprints still felt by this elder.

Giving a child another choice reinforces the magic of 3.

Find another option and share that message to the child.

Another toy and another choice exist. As friends, family, parents, and grandparents see more choices sharing 3 Dom.

“Get ‘wif’ it.

3 dom is freeing.

Self-Care and Pain

Ooh. Ouch. I got an Owie!

 Woo-woo time.

I taught my son, when he was 4-years-old, how to make those childhood cuts and bruises ease with ‘PAIN-BE-GONE.’ A cure-all for owies. It is a way to make the crying stop and healing begin.

 I would put my hand over the owie and tell him to breathe “healing” into my hand, and with love and compassion send the pain devils away. We synchronized our breath, and voila,  it was all better. Still works on the grandkids, but I am only getting temporary relief from my gout.

 One of my friends said to me, “Gout isn’t that the rich man’s disease?”

At first that remark felt like I was being condemned for my rich life style. I could feel myself heading toward resenting the remark when I realized, I am rich! Let me count my blessings. King Midas does not have all the gold I have in my treasury.

One of my treasures is curiosity and its well-developed cousin interest, as in ‘that’s interesting, how does that work?’

 Being interested over the source of gout I found the  The cause is excess uric acid in my system, which I smell after eating asparagus. I am too acidic. I need to balance my system and develop a new diet to become more alkaline.

 The pain, though no longer debilitating, is at times discomforting,  impairs creativity, energy, and fun. I am using the pain as a  muse in creating this essay.

 Being a wordsmith, I like to source words. I use Shipley’s Dictionary of Word Origin and found the word pain has a Latin charge to it.

“The word pain shows the olden belief that our troubles are the result of our sins; we pay the penalty.” Pain has relatives, ‘pine,’ pay, ‘penance,’ become penitent, are placed in penitentiary where one may repent. ’All word relatives of pain.

 Referencing my own internal encyclopedia there are two phrases I have often used relating to pain; “People do not make changes without pain,” and a corollary, “Where do you go to create change without pain?”  

 I started getting relief when I looked at the positive intent of gout, then became gouts friend. 

 There are lessons here; build your self-appreciation muscle, and a willingness to change.

 For pain freedom it helps to clear your focus.

 When you focus on what you don’t have, you’ll never have enough.

 When you focus on what you do have, you will always have plenty.

 “Pain-be-gone” is a good beginning for self-care, and a messenger for change.