The Buddi Book
The Buddi Book,
An Avatar Fry Day Production of Enlightenment,
At Least a Lot More Free Attention by Using a Buddi.
The Buddy System-“buddishattva" to "everyone needs a buddy", with a little help from Swami Budananda. I began to understand and appreciate Buddi’s by learning how to dyad, The looking process coupled with mirrored breathing.
My first contact with a buddy occurred at a Living Love Seminar in San Jose, Memorial Day weekend 1981. Ken Keyes the author of Handbook to Higher Consciousness and founder of Cornucopia used dyads in a looking process. “Focus on the area between the nose, feet flat on the floor, relaxed your body. The result of connecting on that level was amazing. There was the sense that my buddy could see all my secrets. The Living Lovers, the hokiest name imaginable, whose methods were to become present thru the 12 pathways and OPEN UP. The group was composed of a number of followers of Ken Keyes from Berkeley and his farm in Kentucky and a number of first timers like me. We processed the pathways while sitting across from a buddy.
It was a strong dose of honesty, compassion and forgiveness, not just from the ‘boss/teacher/leader’ but from a peer, a buddy. It was a great opportunity to handle my self-abasement, and dig my way out of depression and begin re-programming.
It was here that I heard of NEURO LINGUISTIC PRACTICES, and took my next steps creating buddies. The Ricki’s, naturopaths Dr Rick Brinkman and Dr Ricky Kirschner taught the Magical Nature of Communication-Magic 101. I learned how to establish rapport and mirror, great tools for the looking process.
It was also from the Ricki’ s that SAGE ended up in Portland, Oregon in Sept 1981. Sage was where I realized the power of dyads-the power of creating rapport by breathing with another, eye contact and mirroring the others posture to create greater rapport, trust and the synergy that occurs from a buddy.
Buddi’s are someone... For whom judgment simply doesn't arise, amen. The quieting of the mind is a benefit of the Buddy system. Somewhere in the importance of the work-the Magnus Opus, was the desire to not be judged, easing up being a pleaser, wanting to do ‘it’ right, genuine human compassion, the need to pay attention, the gratitude that another is willing to take on the responsibility to clean up their shit, the knowingness that you are DOING THE RIGHT THING, is, as Rumi wrote, “a place beyond right and wrong”, and its very quiet.
Buddi’s are someone... You can hang out with and be completely yourself... and in the hanging, discover who/what that self truly is. Pretense passes. This is my mirror. This being is with courage. This being is beyond embarrassment. This being made of honesty. This being on purpose. This being is the way I always wanted, and knew it to be.
Buddi’s are someone... You feel so comfortable with; there is no fear of betrayal or abandonment. You ain’t going no where. The only where to go is distraction and ya been there, done that. Fear and betray are the stuff of drama, it’s the first small lie we tell ourselves., that belief that someone other than I is responsible for my Beingness.
Buddi’s are someone... Who listens with an open heart to your vulnerability so your hurt can dissolve in the space at the outer limits of your pain. The buddy system is such trust. For years I sat, not knowing what to do, which was and is the right thing to do, seeing, feeling and accepting whatever my buddy created and shared, and magically the GIANT HOOVER IN THE SKY sucked it all up, leaving a nice clean being upon which to rest.
Buddi’s are someone... Who reflects what you don't see about yourself in such a way that you instantly realize whatever it is and are that much more enlightened. The buddy has the space to see you in another, a different way. They see you as we all are, God, the creator, pure Beingness, awareness without the baggage of beliefs.
Buddi’s are someone... There's more, but essentially there is a very different "feel" between a buddy or a lover, friend, partner, confidant...even mentor, confessor etc. There's a natural affinity that transcends words - or the need to use them - that affords a comfort and sense of well being rare in this world. It's not all "touchy feely".
Buddi’s are someone... involved in a return to consanguinity (New word to me con·san·guin·I·ty (kòn´sàn-gwîn¹î-tê, -sàng-) noun plural con·san·guin·I·ties
- Relationship by blood or by a common ancestor.
- A close affinity or connection. )
Buddi’s are someone... who is a student of life and art, life and nature, life and religion-a ritualistic, mythic level of living which whole societies once experienced in common. The object of rituals is to break free of the conventions that have chained man to certain cliché images and predictable responses that have narrowed pitifully the image of experience.
Buddi’s are someone... who freely gives the return to the freedom to feel. .
“I must invent my own system or else be enslaved by other men’s” - William Blake. “
Follow someone else’s path and you end up where they are.” -Harry Palmer.
Namaste/Nomstay-I bow to the light within.
Latest update May 1,2007