Lost Friend
A Lost Friend
The Sunday Morning Church of ATTENTION
I might have lost a friend this week. I am sad about it. It seems in the transition of the New Year he became a victim of needing to complete a project before January 1, 2010.
I have a group of clients and now friends who had a deadline on a project of December 31, 2009. It seemed like a great ending date when it was set in November, but holidays, family, weather, and sickness clogged the end of the year, so the wise administrator moved the completion date. It freed a lot of attention, but one person still got caught in the “I have to be done”, and she became a victim.
Was it time, we can all be at its mercy, or was it the person’s belief’s that created victimhood?
I do not oppose victims. They choose their own opposition, but I do suggest some cures to ‘deadline-itis’.
There are the obvious;
· Get prepared before you say yes.
· Create bench marks to check in on the project.
· Build in wiggle room for the unexpected.
· Have an exit strategy in case of disasters.
· ASK FOR HELP.
And if your project or plan is due on New Years remember that over ¼ of the planet is Chinese and their New Year begins February 15th this year.
I never give up on friends. I have over reacted when I think I lost one. They can get lost or misplaced like falling into the state of victimhood. It seems odd that when I fall into being a victim I disappear. Logic and good feelings say, ask for help. Call a buddi and tell the truth that I am suffering, stuck, in a whole lotta lack or disease and need help. It’s a big step into wisdom. Just making the call frees a whole lotta attention. It takes the attention and moves it from inside me, from that dark corner of the basement where the mold and mildew stink up the place, and gives me a breath of fresh air.
Namaste
Gary